There is also the fact that no one is out to everyone. Ian McKellen talked about when a taxi driver asked him if he was going home to the missus and he had to figure out if he was going to let this random stranger know. To keep the super hero movie metaphor coming out in Hollywood is like Tony Stark announcing “I am Iron Man” to the press. When in real life it’s usually more like Peter Parker telling Ned that he’s Spider-Man. It’s a lot more personal and just because you are out to one person doesn’t mean you are out to everyone
